Dead Dad Advice from Carolyn Hax
Reston, Va.: Hi Carolyn,
I'm an avid reader, and I'm hoping you can help me. My father passed away at age 64 unexpectedly this past March. I miss him unbelievably, and am not looking forward to Sunday. Any advice on how to march on through, and what should I do for my mother, who will probably struggle on Sunday also?
Carolyn Hax: Don't march. Remember him, honor him, celebrate him, cry, but don't march. Think of it as visiting a gravesite. It doesn't change the fact that someone's gone, it doesn't stop the world from turning, it's just an invitation to bring someone to the front of your mind for a while. Since it sounds like he's already there, I doubt Sunday will bring any surprises you haven't already shown yourself you can handle.
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This is my first Father's Day without my Da.
I feel like I'm going crazy.
I'm so angry and sad and because I'm trying not to take it out on everyone around me - I feel out of control.
I just wanted to say that to someone who might understand.
Hi s00zi, I'm sorry to hear you lost your dad this year. It's an awful thing.
Hi s00zi,
Hopefully you've found folks to listen & hold you through part of today. It sucks. It's really hard and awful. I took my oldest son boating today & there were so many happy dads with happy families. I'm glad for them & still feel the loss in my own life so strongly, seven years later.
hi -
i just stumbled onto your site looking for a picture of the dead dad sculpture you linked to in the past. i'm an artist and my dad died 2 years ago. i think your club is really great. nothing else i've encountered has embraced the complexity of losing a dad in the way your site does with its inherent dark humor.
if you're interested, much of the art i've made in the last 2 years has been dead dad-related. you can see some of it at www.supersilvermonkey.com (go to art, then tributes to my dad.) thanks very much for your site. if you ever are enrolling new members, i'd love to join.
all the best,
george
(not that it matters, but i'm a girl)
Hi. I've been a member of the Dead Dad Club for three years. I found your site yesterday and have missed my dad terribly today.
I saw some dead dad news you might be interested in: Lisa Marie sings a duet with Elvis.
Like George, I'd also be interested in joining you.
Glad my Dad is dead. He was a lying pedifile.
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